I will write about the following, leave one in my ask box.
Dear person I hate, Dear person I like, Dear ex boyfriend, Dear ex girlfriend, Dear ex bestfriend, Dear bestfriend, Dear *anyone*, Dear Santa, Dear mom, Dear dad, Dear future me, Dear past me, Dear person I’m jealous of, Dear person I had a crush on, Dear girlfriend, Dear boyfriend, Dear [insert URL here],
wishtoconfess, via pagingpage) Aug 2
I have been given a request by
surpriseforj to have myself and my followers submit positive and inspirational messages for his friend, Josh. This friend, you see, acquires quite the anxiety and unease that we often feel. It would be lovely of you all to post a quick motivational note for Josh.
Stay strong, lovelies. Aug 1
Attack of the Positive Thinkers!
First I wanna tell you what you’re doing is amazing and I really admire your courage and the way you’re helping people :) Well, I’d like to use some of your advice myself right now. I’ve always been insecure and I may have BDD and well all of my insecurities resulted in me having a bit of social anxiety, like I’m not diagnosed but I feel bad in public sometimes like I’m scared of speaking to people sometimes and I feel like everyone’s staring and I get really uncomfortable. The thing is, the day after tomorrow I’m flying to Spain by myself to spend my holidays with my dad’s side of the family, and he (I moved here from another country when my parents divorced) can’t get me at the airport so someone’s gonna pick me up and bring me to the hotel in a car (I don’t know if I’m explaining well, English isn’t my first language and I’m sorry) but the thing is someone’s gonna stand there holding a sign with my name and I’ve been really stressing out because I’m scared to approach the person and I don’t even know how to introduce myself to signal that’s me he/she’s supposed to pick up and I’m scared of everyone around us watching and I just don’t know how to manage this. I know my question may be stupid, but how can I actually build up the courage to go to this person and introduce myself? I know I sound stupid but I really need advice since my mum’s not taking my anxiety seriously and would just laugh at me if I asked her.
Oh, love, your preoccupations with such matters are far from silly! Moreover, you are not the only one who attains such a worrisome mind. I know what it’s like to acquire social anxiety. I questioned everything and anything I did in public, and felt as though it was a sin to even exist. Nevertheless, there are methods you could try in order to conquer this disorder. I’m sure with enough time and patience, you’ll become the social butterfly you’ve always desired to be.
To begin vanquishing this anxiety, you must first recognize what triggers it. Analyze and recognize what situations as well as insecurities spur these great bouts of anxiety. Once you’ve formulated a list of said situations/anxieties, you can begin to expect when this anxiety is triggered. I then would recommend creating another list of all the positive attributes and characteristics you acquire. During times of trial and turbulence, pull out the list to consistently remind yourself of how extraordinary you really are. Moreover, during anxiety attacks, try to remember that you do deserve to be on this planet and there are many individuals that love and respect you. Keeping this process in mind, you’ll slowly be able to acquire a positive mindset.
Nevertheless, if the procedure mentioned above does not seem to be benefiting your anxiety, I would suggest seeking outside assistance. Inform a parent and/or guidance counselor of the anxiety you obtain and that you’d like to be provided with outlets that will better your mental state. If both figures, however, remain unreceptive towards your needs, take initiative and join support groups or other therapeutic activities. As well, don’t forget to check out
BlahTherapy and 7 Cups of Tea for those moments when you are in need of expressing yourself.
You’re a lovely human being and deserve happiness! Never forget how important you truly are, okay? I’m here if you need anything. Stay strong!
(( By the way, if you have the Skype app on your phone, message me at JudetheJudeful when you’re traveling to Spain. I’ll be there for you. ))