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Anonymous said: I'm trying to become anorexic. I'm 111.5 lbs and 5'1" But I eat like a man and I want to be skinny. I need help before I truly do become anorexic. I know it's bad, and I know the potential harms from it, but I have a desire to be be under 100lbs Help
Oh, love, you do not need to become anorexic in order to lose ten pounds! Besides the fact that anorexia is incredibly deadly towards your mental and physical well-being, the starvation that ensues may trigger your body to binge later. You, in turn, do not lose weight, but are caught in an endless cycle of a starve-binge diet. Moreover, anorexia spurs a great deal of self-loathing, misery, anxiety, and other emotions that are far from pleasant. Anorexia also causes your metabolism, the very function that allows us to keep weight off, to spiral downhill. All in all, anorexia is far too difficult as well as far too dangerous for one to even consider it a “diet plan”.
Nevertheless, there are ways that you can lose ten pounds permanently without starving your body of nutrients. A great way to lose weight while still eating a plentiful amount of food is to go vegan. It has been proven that you will lose a great deal of weight by converting from a carnist diet. However, if you do not believe you can have a meatless diet, just eat healthy and exercise regularly! Cut out the sugars and salts, and join a sports club in your area. With enough time and patience, you will be both healthy and happy.
However, love, please remember that you do not need to lose this weight. You’re beautiful as you are, and do not need to be molded into society’s picturesque vision of “beauty.”
Learn to accept yourself as you are, and love every “flaw” that appears in the mirror. Without such acceptance, you will be caught on an endless path of dissatisfaction and longing.
I’m here if you need anything, okay? Stay strong.
Anonymous said: Hello. You answered my previous post! Thank you for the help. The girlfriend/boyfriend took it very well. Thank you dear!
I’m sorry it took so long, lovely! If you need anything else, I’m here for you.
Anonymous said: I have anxiety and I am being asked to be an emcee for an event in school and I honestly don't think I can cope with it. I tried telling the person in-charge but she refuse to pull me out and right now, I can't stop worrying and crying because I know that I will have a panic attack. what's worse is that the event is tomorrow and I have yet to memorise my script and I just don't know what to do anymore :(
Oh, love, it’ll be alright. When a situation approaches that is beyond overwhelming, take a deep breath and try to calm yourself. While it may be difficult, try to understand that it is not the end of the world and life will continue onward. Moreover, try to think positively and rationalize how you can make said situation better. Like my mathematics teacher once said, “take baby steps.” Before you know, the situation that once seemed so infuriating and intimidating was no more than another pursued activity.
While dealing with your anxiety personally is a wonderful pursuit, you should also consider seeking outside help. Inform a parent and/or guidance counselor that you acquire immense amounts of anxiety that is sometimes hard to be dealt with solely by yourself. I’m sure they’ll be able to get you the help you deserve. As well, if you ever get the urge to express such anxiety in a constructive and efficient way, please check out
7 Cups of Tea or BlahTherapy. It’s a great way to blow off steam.
You’ll be okay, love. I promise. I’m here if you need anything, okay?
(( I’m super sorry for the late reply, I’ve been incredibly busy as of recently. ))
Anonymous said: Hello. I have a question. If you have a disorder (ie Bipolar Disorder, Psychotic Disorder nos, and others like anxiety amd panic attacks) how would you tell a girlfriend/boyfriend about it without them dismissing it or treating you differently?
Well, once you have confronted him/her on the disorder you may acquire, I would suggest educating said person on the mental illnesses at hand as well as how to deal with a person who acquires such disorders. Do your research and understand the science behind the mental illness as well as how one should go about treating a mentally ill person. Such resources I would consider using when doing your research would be
Psychology Today or literature from your local mental health clinic.
I wish you the best of luck in your confrontation! Please stay positive, and understand that not everyone knows how to deal with the mentally ill. Fortunately, we do have the resources to allow said people to become educated in the matter. Don’t give up~! I’m here if you need anything.
Anonymous said: My friend called one of my close friends a whore. He's usually calling this other group of girls whores, but once he told that to my friend. I saw that no girl deserves to be called a whore. I told him not to call her or any girl that(reference to the ones before). Now he's calling me a sexist and feminist. How did this happen? And now he's upset with me._. I'm really confused.
Love, this boy seems to be quite uneducated and immature as well as someone you do not want to preoccupy yourself over. You did the right thing in defending your friend as well as other girls he unjustly attacked. Moreover, please understand that a feminist, by definition, is one who seeks equal rights for all, and is, therefore, not an insult.
As far is this boy is concerned, I would suggest removing all connections with him until he learns how to treat people properly. Someone as intelligent and lovely as yourself does not need to be treated wrongly by such a fool. He needs to understand and absorb the concepts of respect and compassion fully before attempting to regain the friendship lost. Only until he does so can you establish a constructive relation with him.
Stay lovely~! I’m here if you need anything.
anonymous said: Do you know the reasons for binge eating? I’m recovering from anorexia.. And I’ve gotten to where I eat healthy meals at a healthy amount, but when I go to my parents house ( which is 2 times a week or so ) I get extremely crazy with my eating and I can’t stop it! In the back if my head I tell myself to fall back into the same old habits.. But I know better. I want to help myself but I really don’t know how to stop it, I’ve thrown up a couple if times from eating to much.. Please help? 😔 asking-jude responds: While binge eating may seem like an unstoppable addiction, it can b overcome with time and patience. The reason as to why we binge eat mainly deals with our brain chemistry’s reaction to fats, salts, and sugar. Just as a drug addict becomes addicted to his favorite mind-altering medication, a binge eater becomes addicted to his favorite junk food. In a way, our bodies can treat food in a similar fashion as how it treats drugs as it produces the endorphins the brain craves. However, it is not impossible to battle against the binge. Begin by initiating a detailed analysis on the background behind your binge eating. Keep note of when or where you binge eat the most, and why said binge eating may occur. Once you’ve acquired a greater understanding of the effects binge eating has on your mindset and life, you’ll become more aware of how to prevent situations that stimulate binge eating. For more information on how to cease binge eating, click here. Stay positive~! You are one step closer to a healthy and happy recovery, and I’m so proud of you. I’m here if you need anything. Jul 10
I’m sorry I’ve been absent as of recently, a dear friend of mine tried to commit suicide. Please don’t fret, I’ll be that active Tumblr user you know and (hopefully) love in a couple days.
You’re so wonderful, and you mean the world to me.
Stay strong, okay? Jul 9
Anonymous said: Okay so I talked to her (ex) for a while and we're going to meet up tomorrow. I'm super nervous. I have an eating disorder and I've but weight on this week so it's adding to my anxiety. Im just terrified of being hurt again, and although I found out she rarely sees her mum anymore I imagine her mums opinions will still been a problem. Idk I'm expecting the worst as always. Sorry for bothering you will my love life, I just don't have anyone else to talk to in real life
Oh, love, I wish you the best of luck! Like I said before, just remain calm and patient with those around you. As well, try your hardest to remain strong no matter how close you are to breaking. While this may seem difficult, such efforts will allow the situation to be less stressful for both counterparts.
As far as your anxiety is concerned, just remember that what is meant to be will ensue. If your love for this wonderful girl is to occur, let it do so. To preoccupy yourself and worry over the situation does no benefit the matter at hand. Remember that failure is a part of success as one cannot exist without the other.
I deeply suggest, however, that you seek outside assistance for the eating disorder you acquire.
You must realize that your beauty defies whatever number appears on that scale you obsess over. Inform a parent and/or guidance counselor about your anorexic- and/or bulimic -like tendencies immediately as they’ll be able to give you the help you deserve. No one cares how heavy and/or thin you are as it is your personality that wins us over.
Stay positive~! I’m here if you need anything.
Anonymous said: Hey! How do I meet men? I'm 17 and had a relationship 2 years ago, and I feel like I don't connect with any boys at my school in that sense (also I am mainly friends wth girls). I know it sounds like I want to have a bf/ etc just it have done it, but honestly I just want to explore myself a little further by creating new types of relationships, if that makes any sense. I am also kind of shy at times. Thank you:) sorry for this slightly weird question, I feel like I sound like a 13 year old girl.
Oh, don’t worry about sounding like a thirteen-year-old, love, your reasons are justifiable! Personally, I would suggest checking out
Interpals, it’s a great site for those who wish to engage in new relationships with different people of varying cultures. In my opinion, I believe Interpals is a wonderful source to acquire a more cultural mindset as well brush up on your social skills with those of any gender.
Moreover, if you ever have a strong urge to vent or wish to listen to someone else vent, I would suggest checking out
Blahtherapy. It’s a constructive way to let off steam as well as establish relationships with people on an emotional level.
Other sites for meeting new people online safely would be:
Please keep in mind that when meeting new people on the Internet, you should keep your personal information to a minimum. As well, remember to use your discretion if you believe the person you are conversing with holds negligible intentions. For more information on how to gain friendships on the Internet safely, click
here or here.
I wish you the best of luck~! If you ever need someone to talk to, I’m here.